This is what the recent news says:
Detained: Chelsea Ives is seen arriving at Westminster Magistrates Court overnight.
Mrs Ives told The Sun: 'We've no regrets and
would do the same again.
My children have always been taught right from
wrong. We were not being
brave, it's what any right-thinking person ......
How many parents would think in the same line?
Right from the Mahabharat days, [Dhridarashtra ] children ,if they were wrong ,were never scolded or shown the right path.
Who is to be blamed? Definitely not the children. It's the adults : for they have failed to inculcate honesty, righteousness and simplicity among their children.
They fail to discipline fearing they would incur their kids wrath and result, children falling into the wrong path.
Parents indirectly tell them that if they do not get admission they are ready to go through " back door entry." Here they are teaching : 'through bribe things can be bought' .
The relationship between parents and children are like wheels on an axis, time to time they need to be oiled with love ,affection and discipline.
The children's disappointments and anger trigger into violence and they retort to their parents and go for self destruction.The confused behaviour of parents puts them at a place that they are not able to judge their parents.
They are in the world of success -focused society , and every action should end in success, failing which they are considered 'misfit' in the society.
They do not have the time invent, imagine ,play or interact with their friends and like minded people, they become impatient and have no sympathy for the people around them . They have no value for the others and instead keep looking for emotional support and security.
What is to be done? The parents have to sit with their children to focus on the issues related to their self- confidence, self-worth,security,control of emotions etc. By creating a relief- cushion the parents can guide their children thro' the right path and make them bold and strong to face the harsh realities of life , which can no way be avoided or ignored!
The healthy mental and physical status would definitely help the children to come up in life as a good human being and a balanced citizen.
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Posted by: vidraghu
On: 12th September 2011 03:12 PM
Very nice post mathangi! Even though am not a parent, have seen people who do not act at the wanted time and regret later... Also, in today's world, rod has no place... only we need to handle our kids in a balanced way so that they do not go in the wrong path.. Then, ur title is so catchy and 100% true... when a parent asks their kid in front of others... the kids feel very bad and due to that they take the wrong path! So, we should praise in public and reprimand in private which is so true!
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Posted by: ptamil2007
On: 12th September 2011 03:38 PM
very nice post mathangi maam.
So true the saying Spare the rod and spoil the child.
It does not mean all parents are torturing their kids, but teaching the discipline and the good values at the right time is essential.
Practising what we preach is also important at the same time
Hats off those parents who could take such a brave decision
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Posted by: raji2678
On: 13th September 2011 09:53 AM
I really feel that parents should be strict with children, and always be there for them and listen to them. Then, pampering is fine.
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Posted by: mathangikkumar
On: 13th September 2011 04:05 PM
*ptamil2007* (http://www.indusladies.com/forums/members/ptamil2007-8459.html)
Rightly said. walk the talk is essential in today's life who else but parents set an example!
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Posted by: mathangikkumar
On: 13th September 2011 04:07 PM
Raji
Just being strict will not do, as you said they should also extend their support to them.
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Posted by: mathangikkumar
On: 13th September 2011 04:09 PM
Nice to see that you are able to understand the concept of P P R P , and I feel there is no need for anyone to be a parent to understand the PPRP policy, it's inborn and every parent should treat the child as they wanted them to be treated when they were children.
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Posted by: priyasudheer
On: 13th September 2011 04:20 PM
Really very good and useful message for all the parents.....
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Posted by: ojaantrik
On: 13th September 2011 04:38 PM
This is a great post. All parents should read it and look inside themselves. Chelsea's mother will remain a true example of honesty and I think Chelsea will remember this for the rest of her life. Hopefully she will respect her mother for what she did.
ojaantrik
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Posted by: Kamalji
On: 13th September 2011 05:24 PM
Dear Managathi,
True very true.We have to teach our children values, and lead by our own example. We ust push them to acheive success, even at the cost of stepping over others, so that the come first, using fair or fould means does not matter.
Well said.