It may be true to say that behind behind every successful man, there is
a woman. But do you know behind every
unsuccessful woman there is a man called
husband and behind every
successful woman a resentful husband?
How many have watched the Amithabh, Jaya Hindi movie Abhimaan?
A man cannot at any cost, tolerate his wife's success in her career.
Many women prefer to go ahead with their career rather than go for the 'saath
pheras'.
Whatever is said and done you
cannot change a man /husband's attitude.
The age old practice of the husband older to the wife, less educated ,
and less exposed to the worldly life etc., still continue till today.
Some decades ago, when Annapurna Devi married her father's disciple the
great Sitarist Pandit Ravi Shankar ,she never would have imagined
that she had to choose marital bliss over professional recognition.
Why?
I quote: "Panditji (Shankar) was not happy, as I
received more appreciation than he did from both the audience and the critics
whenever we performed together in the 1950s," the 88-year-old revealed
recently. "And that", she
said, "had a negative impact on our marriage. Though he never categorically
stopped me from performing in public, he made it clear in several ways that he
wasn't happy with the fact that I was drawing more applause.A man cannot
swallow criticism and the best way is to bury the opponent's career. No one can
outwit the male dominated society in any field. The audience attention took a
drastic turn towards her and this made him cut her dreams ruthlessly.''
Ex Prime minister Margaret Thatcher's husband insisted that she
cooked an elaborate meal for him every
day.
All are not Chetan Bhagats. Let a woman decide what she wants, do not
dictate terms, since both work both have their commitments to their
profession.This ego business prevails only in the middle class.Neither the
upper class nor the lower class suffer from this.
So many people have overcome . The Pataudis are the best example. Sudha
Murthy, Nilekani, D K Pattammal , Sushma
Swaraj, Margaret Alva, Jayanthi Natarajan and some film personalities the
adjustments really worked wonders. Adjusting and giving respect to the spouse's
feeling is no easy cake walk.
Each one has to work for it and a lot of give and take is done. You cannot have the cake and eat it at the
right time.
Let's be honest here :)How many of us really wish success to our
friends, colleagues, neighbours and relatives? The fear of losing or not
getting what one wished comes in the way of our expectation and cannot wish to
see others successful or happier than us. Isn't it true most of the times especially in our younger
days?
We should get out of this and not only wish all those people mentioned
even one's spouse and relish and be happy with the success. It really brings a
smile and happiness around.
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