Do not go alone..............
A warning in our time when we were young and that too when we were in a joint family! True we were always together as that was all the outing we had , getting vegetables, buying dresses, going to the tailor, visiting the nearby temples, watching a movie in theatres , getting chappals, etc etc.,
A warning in our time when we were young and that too when we were in a joint family! True we were always together as that was all the outing we had , getting vegetables, buying dresses, going to the tailor, visiting the nearby temples, watching a movie in theatres , getting chappals, etc etc.,
I remember either in pairs or alone we had travelled(?) from Tambaram to
Anna nagar, Sastri Nagar, no mobile phone to track us, no insecure life, no
phone calls but elders at home were quite comfortable with us and we were also
quite obedient as we had no distraction and hence no deviation.
Later when my youngest sister's time came ( age difference 6 years), a lot
of freedom -parents and elders liberal with restrictions and rules helped her
and her age group cousins a lot, I do not say we did not have but suddenly we
could see a sea change in the upbringing by the same parents, whether going
out, taking up a job, clothes ..Many of them kept travelling alone
nationally and internationally .
I just could not digest the fact that my father who was very strict
in his views that ladies should not ride even bicycles allowed Viji to ride
a Scooty in a matter of just 8 - 9 years of my marriage , the world
has changed so much!
When I had to join my parents at Tirunelveli in 1969 Malini ( 4 years
younger to me, I was 15 years then ) and self were escorted by periappa's peon
Ranganathan till Tirunelveli .
The first train journey without any one escorting us - by my younger
sister Sudha and self ,was in 1976 from Madras to Coimbatore day time train, we
had my mother's cousin, Swami mama and his father waiting to catch us
standing at the two exit points , both of us -we could spot mama and he
did so at the same time... Imagine how difficult for the present gen to believe
this, a lot of communication was thro 'phone or letters!
Maximum we travelled alone was within the Madras city!
Two decades
back I started my first journey by air which was a luxury those days.... Since
I was with my family I had no fear of not knowing anything ... Later when I
traveled with Anjana my daughter, I gathered courage ...she is experienced by
that time... Of late when I have to travel alone to Baroda by air, I get
butterflies flutter till I board the plane, after sitting, I feel
ashamed of my unknown fear- a fear but nothing do with death or crash...
a fear of missing the flight... I just can't express..
Last time
when I had to switch the flight at Bombay, I hardly had enough time and
literally had to shove the co passengers to make way for me... A matter of 30
minutes to get off and board and always alert to wait for the announcements or
keep looking at the display for the gate and the flight...in spite all
the signage
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But later
in life, I had observed that many times my daughter had to go alone
from Anand to Bangalore and changing from Borivili to Airport in Bombay, my son
travelling on his own with a break of journey at Bombay..which had its
risk of danger but had its own rewards too. They could be independent and take
decisions , and gave them an exposure in life. Exposure gives a lot of confidence and boldness to take decisions.
Now even
train journey has become unsafe whether you travel alone or in groups .
We never
stopped our children going alone, playing in rains and the only condition
was to inform us of their plan where they would be which friend's house to make
sure we are the responsible parents. No regrets.From early childhood
they were brought up in a safe environment and were never afraid of
darkness or theft.
They had
the privilege of playing till midnight in summer, come home
when they liked during holidays , inside the safe campus with their
friends.
They are
quite comfortable why we are also -to loneliness .. at one point of time we all had
to be left to loneliness even it was for a week or so sometimes to months...
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