Tuesday, January 14, 2014
More than love it is a matter of understanding and a healthy respect for the other person's lifestyle.
An old man, staying in a small south Indian town came to visit his son in Bombay recently.
The son in his early thirties is a successful businessman living with his wife and son.
The father, having spent most of his life at his birthplace, hardly understands a
splatter of Hindi or English, forget Marathi. But he doesn't care. 'I have come here to
spend a few days with my son and his family. I don't have to go out
and socialize with the city people,'he said.
But the son is
excited about his father's rare visit to Bombay.
He wants to make the best of it. He and his wife want to show him around the city.
And yes, the son enjoys those evening hours too, when he and his father
go out and sit in a good bar, sipping their favourite drink.
Last week he was in a
'Let's go to a five star hotel's bar tonight,' he told his father.
It was a beautiful evening. Talking about everything under the sun
they had a few drinks. As usual they were offered some salad, peanuts,
wafers etc .as accompaniments with their drinks. The old man being almost
toothless was not much interested in eating. But that day when they got up
to leave, he simply took a handful of chana (roasted grams) and stuffed it
in the fold of his dhoti. He might have thought about munching
on them, sitting in the car, or whatever.
Unfortunately while walking in the lobby,
he missed a step and stumbled.
Down he went,scattering the chana on the plush carpet.
No problem .Now try to visualize that scenario. Someone else in his
son's place would have been mortified, embarrassed to death.
He might have cursed not his father but his own self
for causing this awkward situation.
'Never again will I take my old man to such hotels',
he would have vowed.
No sir, not this son.
Gently, with a smile, he helped his father get back on his feet.
Instead of feeling irritated or angry, he was amused. He found the
. Laughing, they both went home and on the
way they decided to return to the same place the followingSunday.
The old man liked the place and liked the chana too.Few days back,
at a friend's place they both described this event and made everybody laugh.
Weren't you embarrassed? Somebody asked the son.
'Oh, come on now' replied the son. 'He is my father. He talks in his native
language, prefers to wear a dhoti even to a posh city hotel,
takes chana from the bar to eat later, does whatever he feels like....
Why should I feel embarrassed with his nature and habits?
Nobody has a right to stop him from doing whatever he feels
comfortable with, as long as it is not harmful to others.'
The son doesn't care what the staff in the hotel thought about that incident.
He says 'they should be concerned only with their bills and tips.
I am concerned about my father's happiness.'
The wife too totally agrees with the husband on this issue.
She feels there are enough other qualities in her
father- in- law to feel proud of.
Accept them .The above incident is not mentioned
just to show the love and devotion of a son for his father.
More than love it is a matter of understanding and a
healthy respect for the other person's lifestyle.
A seventy plus old man doesn't want to change his lifestyle now.
He likes the way he eats or dresses or talks. In his eyes there is
nothing wrong with the old ways of living. And the son says, ok, fine.
Every body has a right to live as per his wish. Now at his age, why
should he be forced to learn to eat with a fork and knife, if he doesn't want to?
I will feel bad if he is doing something morally wrong or indulging in
some harmful activities. But otherwise it is fine. I am not going to try
to change him at this stage.
He is my father. I love him, respect him.
Hey folks, can you think this way? So many times we see people
getting embarrassed by the so called unsophisticated behaviour
of their family members. They keep on apologizing about their lack of
class and manners or about their drawbacks to outsiders. My wife can't
speak proper English; she doesn't know what's happening in the world,
so I avoid taking her out or introducing her to my friends and business associates...
My parents can't eat with a spoon and fork, so I don't take them to restaurants
My husband is working as an ordinary clerk, so I feel awkward when I
introduce him to my rich friends. My brother is mentally challenged,
so I don't feel like going out with him...
Are you plagued with such thoughts or do you meet such people who think alike?
If you do, please ask yourself. Why do others or I feel this way? Really what
is there to feel ashamed of? Most of the people always have this fear
of other peoples' opinions and comments. What would others say?
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Padithadil pidithadu [Re produced ]
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