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Sunday, September 13, 2009

Exam Phobia

''Que Sera, Sera, Whatever Will Be, Will be.........This is a rare advice parents give their children, due to the rat race, and the cut throat competition.

Dear students,

Why studies? It is inevitable in a person’s life. Unless one studies, one cannot establish oneself in life. Many of you must be ambitious to become a doctor, engineer, teacher, pilot etc or the in thing – Software professional and make millions.

To fulfil your aim, you must not only study but also be the cream of your class. Only then you can be hopeful of achieving and reaching your professional destinations. Examinations are only a phase in a student’s life.

It is quite natural of you to spend sleepless nights, have tension amidst hectic schedule, attending school, coaching classes, coping with peer pressure, parental pressure etc; pressure to excel and above all your own expectations!

Exam is a game of chance. Whatever you have learnt in the course of a year is to be condensed and penned down in just three hours. So get rid of your fear. Here are a few tips to help you.
Try to follow religiously, and success is sure to reach you.


· Each child’s strengths and weaknesses differ, hence concentrate on the areas that need more practice, and put more effort to overcome the weaknesses.

· Choose a proper study area with a proper chair and table, airy and properly lit [preferably away from kitchen, telephone & T.V.].

· Avoid cluttering the table. Keep a pen stand with required stationeries, stack of unused sheets/notebooks for each subject, and an alarm clock. Keep enough drinking water, and an emergency light.

· Remove all distracting posters from your room and let the charts with the formulae/equations replace them for the time being. Put up in bold "I CAN. ---WINNER---- SUCCESS” Paste this poster and keep looking at it. This is self-motivation.


1) Prepare a study timetableIt should have:

A compulsory 3- hour mathematics paper [preferably morning hours] every day. Especially for those students who score average marks, and the ones who make silly errors.

Other subjects can be as per your requirements and performance, with a time bound schedule for each subject - chapter / unit, weight age wise.

Chalk out a plan by analysing your past performance. Prepare an effective plan.

2) Tomorrow never comes. So start today
Paste the timetable on the wall/display board.
Keep only the books required on the table.
Inform your family members about your schedule, especially if you happen to solve a 3-hour paper to remain undisturbed.
Mention date everyday on the work sheet.
Note the doubts subject wise and approach your teacher after fixing up the time for clarification.
Go through the previous year's question papers to get an idea and you will be surprised to know the pattern &choice of questions.
You need to find out what are the areas that still need more practice and chalk out some more time for it.
Underline the important points.
Keep short notes/note making/mind mapping [these are ready reckoners before the exam].
Fix a time for each task so that you don't end up spending more time for one question.
At the end of the day, ask yourself whether you have worked as per your schedule.
Compare your pre-study schedule with your post -schedule.
How far could you be successful in your planning and preparation? If the answer is a big YES, then go ahead or else change the plan after introspection.
More importantly BELIEVE IN YOU and believe you can do it.

3) Family Interaction

Discuss with your parents/family members about your each day's schedule and progress. This will give you a kind of satisfaction.
Feel free to take the help of your parents for you 're fortunate to get the help at home.

4) Relaxation

When you find studies a bouncer, divert your mind by listening to music, playing relaxing or refreshing games that will calm your mind but not tax your energy, take a stroll, light - dancing, or perhaps having 40 winks.
Talk to your family members or just close your eyes and relax. Give a break to those tired eyes and mind. BUT remember to come back to study in time.

Finally, with proper Discipline, Determination, Direction, Dedication, and Deadline. “YOU CAN WIN”



The forthcoming examination must be making the butterflies fluttering in your stomach. Don’t worry; it’s a natural phenomenon. But how do we get respite from this fear? First, keep cool and try not to thrust your pressure / fear / expectations on your child. Never compare or worry that your child’s friend's or your neighbour's lights are on beyond your child’s schedule. Let your child decide the time of study. Each person has a unique study habit and the result comes with the quality and not the quantity. Your children have their own fear. They are under a lot of stress. Their day begins early and commuting between coaching class, school, and home tasks probably eats up most of their time. Their time and hands are fully occupied. They live complex lives caught in the pressure and have no time for their favourite past time. What you can do at this juncture is to understand and guide them, give praise wherever needed. Comfort them with your soothing words and they give them the feeling that you can be looked upto. Avoid comparison with siblings / peers, or for that matter your own self. No two fingers are the same. Comparison will only aggravate their tensed up state. Don’t pressurize to study at the time you want. Never talk demeaningly. Avoid talking of the past. Do not express your fear directly to your wards. Provide them the conducive study atmosphere. Have belief in your child, by expressing confidence in your child. What they need is motivation and enthusiasm and freedom from fear, worries, and frustration. Any significant matter may be discussed with your spouse alone. Discourage politely friends and visitors at the time of examination, hosting and attending parties or inviting guest for dinner. Remove TV and computer from your ward’s room for the time being. Be aware of the study schedule of your ward; take moderate interest in their studies.

Don’t interfere or boss over, let them be their own judges. Your ward needs soft and gentle dealing and emotional support at this time. Talk positive things because we promise according to our hopes and perform according to our fear. You are the ones who should support and encourage apart from giving guidance and advice.

Remember you are the lighthouse guiding the ships in the rough weather.


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